Spit play is the act of spitting on one other individual with erotic intent. At its core, it is the transferring of liquid (usually saliva) from one individual’s mouth to a different individual—no matter location. The act matches comfortably into foreplay when spitting on one’s hand to have interaction in hand intercourse or giving a very moist oral intercourse session. Spitting on genitalia to make use of as a lubricant (at the side of further lubricant) could be extremely erotic, as nicely.
“Whether or not it’s saliva, water, alcohol, or no matter liquid, spitting when executed in a consensual and sensual method could be extremely arousing.” —sexual well being specialist Varuna Srinivasan, MBBS
“Whether or not it’s saliva, water, alcohol, or no matter liquid, spitting when executed in a consensual and sensual method could be extremely arousing,” says Varuna Srinivasan, MBBS, MPH, FRSPH, sexual well being specialist and founding father of Tara Well being Media. “[But] as a result of spitting is related to an absence of propriety and civility, and we stay in a society that prioritizes purity, it may be seen as off-putting, when it’s fairly the other.”
This kink lends itself to erotic ubiquity in that it might stay throughout the sexual spectrum however is initially related inside the scope of BDSM with “D” referring to degradation play as a highlighted scene the place spit play can stay. Being spit on additionally has the potential for use in dominant/submissive, sadist/masochistic preparations, says intercourse educator Tara Jones: “It is a perfect choice for these turned on by humiliation however hostile to any kind of ache or tough intercourse, and a degree up in some methods from verbal degradation.”
However spit could make its manner into intercourse play with out having a spit kink, curiosity in dominant-submissive dynamics, or want for a degradation scene. For some, spit alternate is a type of intimacy and fluid bonding to extend closeness, belief, and connection, says licensed psychologist and AASECT-certified intercourse therapist Jordan Soper, PsyD. “There isn’t a proper or mistaken technique to expertise eroticism related to spit play,” she says. “It’s extra a matter of figuring out why you could take pleasure in it, talk your must your accomplice, not shaming your self or others for it, and safely partaking within the experiences.”
In reality, it’s possible that one thing beneath the spit-play umbrella has made its technique to your intercourse life already. “Spit play is widespread, but I do not suppose individuals know that they’re truly partaking in it,” says board-certified intercourse educator and intercourse coach Linnea Marie. If you happen to’re curious to strive otherwise you wish to be extra intentional in your exploration of spit play, try 4 steps beneath to information your follow.
4 steps for exploring spit play along with your accomplice(s)
1. Speak about it first
Earlier than launching a horny loogie at your accomplice, make certain all events are conscious and all in favour of stated occasion and event. Spitting on an individual who’s uninterested or unaware isn’t solely a non-consenting act, nevertheless it has the potential to carry up adverse feelings—and even set off previous undesirable experiences.
And since spit play can incorporate so many potentialities, make sure you have a dialog about preferences that transcend mere curiosity to have interaction. There’s room to debate should you’re a spit backside, spit high, or spit verse—and the place on the physique that spit is cleared to land. There are additionally loads of types of spit play to strive: arduous spit, sensual spit, drooling, within the mouth, not within the mouth, and past. “It may be positioned anyplace the events comply with,” Linnea Mare says.
2. Spit safely
Understand that sure STIs could be current in bodily fluids and may transmit to a different accomplice through different bodily fluids. “Direct mouth-to-genital or genital-to-genital contact carries the next threat of STI transmission,” says Jones. “With herpes that presents orally, HSV1 or HSV2, there should be direct contact between the contagious space and one other’s mouth or genitals, so spitting from a distance wouldn’t carry that threat.” Analysis has additionally discovered that there is a threat issue for transmitting gonorrhea through saliva.
Moreover, spit might upset the vaginal microbiome and result in an infection. “There’s plenty of micro organism within the mouth that may be transferred and irritate the pH steadiness of the vagina, so simply be conscious of how clear the mouth is that the spit is coming from,” says Linnea Marie.
For these causes, it is necessary to have conversations with any sexual accomplice earlier than partaking in any play about their STI standing and to proceed in accordance with your personal threat tolerance.
3. Choose your spit choice
Not everyone seems to be blessed with a saliva manufacturing unit of their mouth nor can we all have the power to evoke spit on command. If you happen to’re in search of methods to maintain spit play, staying hydrated will maintain the mucus membranes within the mouth working and extra energetic.
4. Observe aftercare
Nurturing our companions after play, aka aftercare, builds closeness within the relationship and helps our post-orgasmic, post-arousal, and post-spit play our bodies because it regulates the discharge of oxytocin, dopamine, and prolactin. This additionally helps to keep away from the expertise of postcoital dysphoria.
“Aftercare is a foundational part of any wholesome and practical sexual dynamic,” says Dr. Soper. “On the subject of spit play, start by figuring out what are your targets for spit play…. The very best aftercare begins with stable pre-care by discussing wants and needs along with your accomplice and successfully listening to their wants and needs on the subject material.”